My brother in law wants to move in with my husband and I their mom gets paid to watch him. Can my brother in law change his caregiver from his mom to my husband? Who would we have to talk to or get in contact with?
in response to dumbo...I have seizures and I have disability. If your Mom gets disability she will have to file for someone to help her from the disability office. There is a website for that.
http://www.ssa.gov/pubs/11000.html#part6
I did not see anythng where is specifically says they will pay you to take care of your Mother. You do need to contact your State to see if they have some programs that can help you with getting your resources met. Also, going to a church is helpful too. I used to my utilities paid from churches. I am sorry to hear about your Moms issues. I have epilepsy and I certainly understand how difficult it can be.
I WAS WONDERING IF SOMEONE IS ON SOC.DISABILITY AND HER MOTHER GETS ILL..AND HAS TO TAKE CARE OF HER..COULD THE CAREGIVER GET PAID..AND WOULD THAT HURT HER MONEY EACH MO....AND HER MOTHER IS ON SSI..SHE HAS ALZ. DIEASE.
Can I get paid for moving in and caring for my sister, who has
been completely bed ridden for 2 years. I am on disability myself
but there is extra expenses for her.
Happy Easter and I hope you feel and hear my prayers for you and family to be at peace, happy with who you love, treat all with consideration and respect, give more than you ask for and underpromise and overdeliver to make your life successful, rewarding and filled with anticipation of what's next.
I am a bit disturbed today my dad has Alzheimers and does not live with me, he has a second wife my stepmother, her two daughters, grandson's and a church group who all think he is the greatest. As my dad from 1958 until 2006 he lived a life of selfishness, arrogance, childhood to adult broken promises to even come by , call or show up for holiday dinners or any other dinner where people sit, talk and get to know each other and show concern, care, andsupport each others dreams, goals and life. We got at absent dad, whoe life was spent with strangers, co-workers and the other women , most of my momo's friends and neighbors, humiliating my mom in her public circles and even dated some of my friends , friends. We got to love a name of our father, all of his first family members, three kids and a wife he wiped his ego and feet on considering himself too good to waste time with our trivial lives or sucesses, controlling but never home, and violent a few times and verbally abusive to mom nonstop and never supported her dreams or ever helped her increase her education as promised or even act like supporting us was an honor only a punishment in his eyes, cutting alimony/child support off the day we all turned eighteen and never dropped another dime on uus for even a stick of gum or participating as a father at all not that we asked or needed his money. Now at 77, he has put on a new attitude re-writing history as a goood man and father, and community leader, joined a church, became deacon, and basically put on an act to be religious to get insurance business, but I told him do not play with God you may regret it oneday. Now his second wife thinks he lived a full life as a good father to the first family, and we just do not care about our poor sick dad who sacrificed his adult life raising us, not and we should be coming around to surround, support and caregive in his time of need and poor degrading health. He never supported me as a terminally ill person, even when I was not expected to make it out of the hospital he came once, glared at me,sucked his teeth, did not understand what was wrong with me, accused me of faking as I was dying to get more money in the divorce settlement, told me if I was dying why be in the hospital wasting his money, just come home and die. All this ignorance stung, numbed me, got buried as I waited for him to be touched by God and become a person again. Well he did finally emerge as a caring person, tried to be a father to me who was always his favorite, yes"daddy's little girl" who got the little praise he ever gave but I still was stood numerous times , sitting in tears, gutted he promised and did nort keep it, time after time. Now in his late seventies he wants company , adoration of loving children and the second family is reaping all the benefits of his rebirth as a father, grandfather, friend, and ask why we are not around and talk shit about us not nowing the truth. The stepmom tried to throw it uo in my face and I had to get her straight, I told her I'm not the one and you have got it all wrong about why we do not come and two of his children are too hurt to even care anymore but now he is very ill, losing lucidity, and they are complaining about our absence,as the burden of caring for him grows they just gripe and resentment is growing as ill memebers of her family try to care for him. I said that is no way to handle it, by asking from people untrained, uncaring but family in name, but feeling forced to look after him, as a result they are not caring for him properly, leaving him alone without I.D. or a working cell phone only a house phone I was over and looked for for his cell phone an hour and never found it then when the stepmomn came home she marched over with it after I insisted I was off to buy a new cell phone if she did not show me his, she got hot said it was under the bed where I had already looked, I think she had it in her pocket and tried to start an argument and I said I have called for a week without answer and I have the right to be upset, and get reasonable answers finally she also got the house phone that was covered by a pile of clothes which does work during the day, but he had no idead where it was. I was told basically since I do not come around , do not come now starting any mess, I said showing concern and asking for answers to things I see that are toatally unacceptable is not starting mess, when I come raising hell, and starting mess you will know it the police will be here then I got a bit of snapping and growling from my dear stepmom, who I am not on the best terms with just, civil for the sake of speaking. I told her my dad had phoned me asked me to arrange for groceries to be delivered, which I paid for, which pissed her off, why? like he is not getting enough to eat, and he has been put in a seperate bedroom, for the last six weeks and feels a distance from his wife, and suspects she may be cheating, possibly his guilt and imagination since he did cheat regularly on all his wives for years and now cannot drive or get out and she is out working and going to church events without him due to his fear of falling after hip surgery which has weakened his legs, like mine have been for the last several years. Since 1972 he has never asked about my health, welfare with any real care or sincerity,nor asked if I needed money,does it hurt all the time, how do I get to the hosptal when I fall and collapse or anything until I returned in 2006, when he was into God, teaching sunday school, and pretending to be reformed, but God changed him in how did he think. I asked how did he think I made it without a father all these years, and made it threw nights of screaming in pain with no relief in sight and not slit my throat just for thepain to stop, laying with two husbands who promised not to leave, love me and see I died in peace who both betrayed their promise to God as their marriage vows, and just left me as he did, broke promises they made as he did and I deepdown expected only that from men and especially anyone who claimed to love me as he did, so I was waiting to be disappointed thanks to his continual disrespect and letdowns and waiting around until he decied to try to start being even cordial and have conversations asking how I was, who I was and what I was doing with my life. I am worried he reached out for help, and I tried and my brother and older sister could care less on any level but I would help anyone elderly person family or not, as I have for a lifetime not just to impress others or prove something I will always help anyone asking for it but feel I am being put off by an overbearing, sensitive overwhelmed stepmom, who knows she is not being a good caregiver, but is to stubborn to let me help, and I told her I am ytoo ill to come and be a caregiver, I put in my time from childhood I hae taen care of the elderly and ill family, friends and anyone I could because that is who I am. She works and to her credit has seen him through two surgeries and the onset of the big "A". I offered to get help in for her for dishes and chore help but, she adamantly refused with a big attitude. I feel afraid for him and am puzzled what to do next to help him? He said I may have to move? I asked why he does'nt feel loved anymore? I do not know if it is paranoia from his old cheeating ghosts or a real cry for help?
Any suggestions from experiences in your life or current situationsimilar to this/
Be well, lie now and love the one who loves you while there is still time and while it still matters to them.
Tell me if you get this..I DON"T... I was listening to a talk show today, the discussion was "Hiring help for parents".The guest was saying "I rather have a company that's bonded, than worry about the caregiver". I'm like huh?.. As an agency I know the importance of being bonded.
But I would care about the caregiver as well. I feel that's the problem people are more worried about their personal property than the care of their loved ones. As abuse of seniors rises people should be more careful about whom they allow into their homes. When you don't care about the caregiver Abuse is BOUND to Happen.
Hello I am tested 2 just joined on my daughters 18th birthday she is a special needs teenager I have been going through a lot last 2 weeks she was born with Trismony Downe's Syndrome at birth as of last week she now has grand mal seizures she has had 2 in school one the lifesaving had to be called her one on one aide rode with her Monday.
She has missed days of school last 2 weeks trying to get various things straighten out she just started her seizure medicine Wednesday went to school today and yesterday did good now I watch her more then ever then on top of this Sunday I had to ask my boyfriend to move out he was demanding I wanted to contiune to go with him but he said once a woman says that that is it but he calls i do talk to him he has said he wonts to move back in asked could he spend the weekend that is another story well if any of you have any information I wont to see if she can someone told me SSD please send me all the information and how to go about that that as soon as possible
I am mother's primary caregiver and we are blessed with getting along famously. I do need to work out something more reliable for respite care and perhaps grant payment for family caregiving as this is continuing for many years.
Hello my name is Brenda. I am a caregiver for my husband who had a stroke in 05.
I am his driver for dr and his blood work and so on I have been doing this for over 4 years coming up 5 years. I would like to know if there any money I can get for my husband. I give up 2 good jobs to move close for my husband dr & heart dr. Please I love my hubby very much and i have to say this is a very hard job!!!! I think the caregivers should get something for this Thank you Brenda
in response to sheshe030...Teri will buy I hope that what she means the cat food and the lady who has 12 cats in her place and not there one hung itself a kitten ..People can be a holes when it comes to animals and people..Leave the cats and kitten alone all day with someone checking on them once..and it has been hot..crap give me a break...
in response to sheshe030...I looked it up after your response to her and thank you...Oh you didn't waste your time ,, you gave her great advice .. I gave her the MS links so hopefully she can get help for her cousin. Teri was over and got the money for quarters and this will be a light day as I try to figure out groceries...hugs
in response to Starshine...comment to Starshine:---I didn't realize you wrote so much on this subject. I think I just wasted my time as you covered it all. sheshe030
in response to lalost...reply to lalost:---Well it sounds good so far, does she have a case worker? She should have one hopefully through medicare. Anyway call both offices and have them send you any and all the info they have on home care reembursement for the disabled. If your lucky you may even get to talk to someone that knows what you do next. You have to make out a caregivers app and I believe you have to take a 6 hour course on what to do in case of emergencys. Actually, the requirements aren't all that bad and the state saves a lot of money by keeping our loved ones in their homes and the fact that you will have to quit your job is a big plus. I wish you all the luck in the world and I think what your doing for your loved one is wonderful. If I can be of any more help let me know. sincerely sheshe030
I know quite a few people battling this disease and your cousin is so lucky to have you. In my blog click on horse picture to get you there , in the blog is JOB IDEAS..
Here are some links for MS that may be of help to you...
The effects of MS vary widely from one individual to another. Symptoms for some may come and go, while others may experience a steady worsening of their disease. Each person's specific symptoms vary greatly too. For example, one may have visual problems, numbness, and fatigue, while another may experience impaired mobility, weakness, and depression.
With so many variables, the needs of the MS population are diverse. For this reason, MSAA offers five categories of programs and services aimed at providing individualized assistance to people with MS, their families, and their care partners.
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The physical symptoms of MS often have a strong emotional impact. Individuals with MS may feel uncertain about the future and frustrated over the challenges MS may present; loneliness and depression are very common as well. Encouragement and understanding are key to helping an individual get back on track, while valuable information helps to reduce fear and provide positive direction.
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The Multiple Sclerosis Foundation is concerned with the physical, emotional, and social impact on people diagnosed with multiple sclerosis and their families. MSF strives to ensure the best quality of daily life for those coping with MS through implementation of an extensive array of patient services.
All MSF services are free of charge. Some programs are needs-based and dependent on income and other factors; other programs are available to all individuals affected by MS. Please see the navigation on the left for detailed information on each program and how to apply.
For questions about any of the MSF's programs, call 1-888-MSFOCUS or email support@msfocus.org.
in response to sheshe030...Thank you for all your information and yes she just moved from Ohio to Dallas with me because she is unable to be alone. I'm going be honest when i first took this all on I wasnt aware that it would be so much responbility until she arrived. i was working fulltime at a hospital Im unable to maintain my fulltime job .Do to working fulltime at home with her. And she do receive medicare and socail security. So i guess my next step should be to contact someone to appply to be her caregiver since she is currently living with me is this correct.
in response to lalost...Reply to lalost:---I can only speak for the state I live in (Washington) but if your loved one is eligible for medicare/medicaid and or is on social security you can apply to be her caretaker. They will come to your home and make sure she has access to the bathroom and has any equipment she may need for mobility like a walker and or a wheelchair etc.You would have to be available to care for her full time or you could inquire about someone coming in for an evening or one day a week to give you a break. They will probably want you to live in the same home as that is the whole point of being a caregiver and that is to be there to help her with any and all needs she may have. They also provide transportation for her to and from her Dr appointments but you will also have to apply for that as well. To find out if this is available to you you should first establish if she is on medicare/medicaid/social security and you can call your local social security office to find out who to talk to about this. You can also call the Dept of social services and talk to them. Before you do anything you must establish what kind of coverage she has. I hope this has helped you but as I said each state may be different so you should get on the internet or phone and find out what is available where you live. Good luck sincerely sheshe030
in response to sheshe030...Thank you for the information I just started taking care of my cousins she has ms. Iwas working also but its hard to work and look after her. My bills are starting to pile up and as everyone aware the bill collector dont care that you are taking care of a loved one and falling behind on bills. Can you help me find some resources that could help us out please.
needing help badly................
I am disabled both mental and physically. I fall down and hurt myself alot. My huband cares for me while he's not at work and even calls in on my bad days. He makes less than $ 10 an hour so even one day off hurts us badly since you all know that disability doesn't pay well. Is there any way he can recieve any compensation for being my primary caretaker ? Thank you for you reading this.
Hello my name is leslie and i am a caretaker right now that can go with me on transit to chicago where i will be prepairing to get treatment for a double lung transplant. A caregiver would have to be someone that could go with me on the 17th of aug and then when i am called for the transplant they would need to be there two times for them to inform them of what to do when i get home. I am without anyone right now that is willing to do that. if anyone has any ideas that would be helpful or any questions.
Hello, my fiance' just died and her mother needs someone at home 24/7. I live in her home and have been taking care of her fo about 6 months. I am not able to work but I need to be able to purchase personal things and things for the home. I am also taking care of her son who is 14. I could use the information you have on this subject. If you can send me some resources that would be helpful. Send it to my email at geap52968@gmail.com. Thanks for any help. sincerly Just getting started.
Contact a home health care agency. They would be the ones to determine if your mom needs a caregiver and, if they're willing, can pay you for doing what you were doing anyway. They know, if they're insightful, that a family member knows the patient and knows the needs of the patient and is able to satisfy those needs. It may not be full-time pay, but it's worth a shot. If you don't like the first agency, go to another one. They're all over the place. With the agency, your mom would also be assigned a social worker who can help her get disability if she's qualified as well as other services he/she can provide. A physical therapist can also be assigned to your mom if she needs it. Medicade can pay for the home health care.
You're a good person for taking care of your mom, but you need some relief too. Maybe you and another caregiver can split shifts. Good luck to you. And God bless you.
Hope everyones doing ok, not tooo bad, was wondering if anyone knows other sites
like craigslist for posting jobs, i need a site thats just as good and gets alot of traffic thats free..
im in Brooklyn ny bayridge, does anyone know of any one needing a caregiver in my area?
and does anyone the latest update about tier 5 unepmployment?, so far its still the same
at least for NewYork nothing yet saying maybe the end of this Month or begining of June...
Everyone i hope u know that yr entitled to foodstamps if on unemployment even if yr working
you can still get foodstamps if u make under a certain amount and definetly check out what other services u can get such as health insurance and assitence if u need it!!!
Im haning in ther and managing the best that i can, i know it gets depressing and there are days i dont feel like waking up, but hey it passes and then im grateful for another sunrise i got to see, so keep thinking positive!!!................Later Dee fm Brooklyn
I receive 1083.00 per month social security, my bills are about 950.00 and I never have enough to get groceries, personal hygeine or cleaning supplies, clothing(pj's is all I wear though I need a church dress to get baptized, my time is so short, after I pay my bills, i get a few groceries that last about a week and have nothing rest of month, have to pay if i get grass cut, housecleaned, someone shops for me, etc. Don't know what to do, need grant to help me out my remaining months they say I will live if that long. My burial is 4600.00 and I have no way to pay it either
Reply to Brown9148:---Yes you can get paid for taking care of your mother, that is if the laws are the same in your state as mine. How old is your mother? If your 51 I imagine your mom would be to old to apply for disability but she does have social security but does she have medicaid as well? My best friend took car of her husband because he was not able to care for himself and required someone 24/7 so she applied and was paid to care for him until he passed just last year. I am going to send you to some of my Aidmates that have worked for months getting resources for almost any need there is and I will give you their aidpage names, if you don't see them on the main page just type their names in the google window at the top of the page. WhoKnew---Rosie327---Ekikaseven---Soulight---Elaine of TSA---and Friendshelpingfriends--. There you go, you should find what you need in any one of these sites and good luck. sheshe030
Things have changed drastically with mom. She has started having seizures now and can't be left alone at all. I was doing In-store demo's on a part time basis for a little extra money, but can no longer do that. And desparately need the extra income to be able to pay my own bills. I have heard that there is a way to get paid for being a full-time caregiver for a family member. Anyone know who to contact for that information?
Also, mom get social security, but I was wondering if she could also draw disability?
Because of the issues with my husband's Congestive Heart Failure, I felt compelled to add a new page to my website InXpensive Living in the Disabilties section.
Hi, Aidpagers! I found this in a local magazine and wanted to share it with you. Although this is specific to California, maybe there are similar organizations for cancer patients and their caregivers in other states.
The American Cancer Society: 800-ACS-2345
Specially trained staff will help callers with all the services offered by the Society, including:
Hello I am a caregiver. I'm finding it hard to do my job without more education. I do need to finish school but, don't have the time to. I'm usually at work. And when I'm not at work I do attend school only to have to stop going because of how i have to work as a relief person in a family care home. Most of those positions are live-in. I don't mind initially but then I can't finish school. I try to be a relief worker but you don't work steady. I will keep trying.
Hi Lordbewithme,
You might want to try Modest Needs, an organization that helps with small grants to cover bills and other needs.
I hope this helps !
soulight
By Barron - on May 2, 2007... modified on May 2, 2007
Posted in Barron
I am a hard working man trying to make ends meet while caring for my grandmother. I maintain the house by mowing the yard and taking the garbage cans to the street, and basic upkeep that otherwise, grandma would have to pay someone to do. My Grandmother is on a fixed income and I help out whenever I can. I am trying to obtain a better paying job to try and ease the burdens. I am a man of great faith and I have ask tke Lord what I can do? I try to maintain hope and I know that my higher power will not put any burden on my shoulders that I can not handle, but sometimes it is so hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am asking for financial help in any amount and also some words in inspiration from you that have been in my position before. May God bless you and your loved ones. The photo I posted is of Grandma and I at my Grandfathers funeral,may he rest in peace, I'm sure he is up in heaven guiding me through this process.
MY SON JAKE HAS CP, HE IS 20 NOW AND I HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH. HOWEVER I WOULD NOT CHANGE ONE THING. NO MATTER HOW HARD IT WAS. I ACCEPT THAT THIS IS ALL MEANT TO BE. JAKE HAS SUCH A HARD LIFE. HE CANNOT WALK AND HE HAS A VERY HARD TIME GETTING PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND HIM. WHATS MOST AMAZING IS THAT HE SMILES ALL THE TIME. HE IS THE BRIGHTEST, MOST AMAZING PERSON I HAVE EVER KNOWN. I JUST WANT TO HELP MOMS LIKE ME WHO ARE OUT THERE . I KNOW ALOT ABOUT ADAPTING AND OVERCOMING. ME AND JAKE ARE SO HAPPY MOST OF THE TIME BECAUSE WE FIGURED OUT HOW TO COMMUNICATE. THE FUNNY THING IS THINGS JUST KEEP GETTING HARDER FOR US BUT WE ARE HAPPY ANYWAY BECAUSE IF JAKE CAN SMILE IN SPITE OF ALL HE HAS TO DEAL WITH WHO AM I TO COMPLAIN?
By drdar3260 - on Mar 26, 2007... modified on Mar 26, 2007
Posted in drdar3260
I am mother of seven, who has been diagnosed with fibromyalgia. I am currently out of work; and able only to work certain jobs, that makes it that much harder to find one. I had deposited two checks totally $5,000; not knowing they were part of a scam. The checks were counterfeit; I am now facing legal matters if I don't find the money to pay the bank back. The bank says they will press charges if I don't get this paid back as soon as possible. (I don't understand, I became a victim in a heartless scam). I have tried to find help, but none of my family are able to help me; they are having financial problems themself. I don't know where else to turn to for help. I hope there is someone who can help me and my family out of this. I am trying to get my life back on track, and I thought I had won the lottery, and so I deposited the checks, not realizing it has created a nightmare for me and my family. My life in the last two years have been a long rough roads, with obstacle along the way. With having fibromyalgia, I am finding that my decisions are clouded, and not real well thought out. I am having to learn how to deal with this one day at a time, which is hard for my children. If there is anyone that could help me to clear this matter up, I would appreciate it. God bless.
